My thoughts on this sunny Thursday morning concern relationships... Not necessarily boy & girl love relationships but all kinds of relationships... Husband & wife, ex husband & ex wife, parent & child, friends, coworkers, boss & employee.
So here is my thoughts... maintaining a good relationships is two things... its a choice and a two way street... my other thought is that relationships are of value and if you have value in the relationship or no value in the relationship THAT will determine what the choice is. Let me explain...for example, if you have a child with a person, then there is value to the relationship with your child's other parent... if you have love for a person then you have a reason to have a relationship with them... if you value a friendship and it adds something to your life then there is a reason to maintain it... if you like your job or vise versa you like the work your employee does then there is value in the work relationship...
When a relationship goes astray or is tested or just completely falls apart it is a choice based on the value of the relationship on weather or not to maintain it or end it...
When my Ex husband and I went through a divorce, it was ugly and there was a ton of hurt and pain... but after time had passed, and yes time does heals pain, it became a choice to maintain that relationship or not... I once told him this:
"If at one point and time I cared about you enough to date you, sleep with you and eventually marry and have a child with you then no matter what happens I can choose to go back and find that happy place and be friends with you, at the very least I can be your friend"and he eventually agreed... We are great friends now because we have Jenifer ( she is the value ) and because of her we made a choice to have a good relationship. Period!
So as you go through life living and loving remember this... relationships are a choice and if at some point and time you liked the person you had or have a relationship with then no matter what happens you can choose to have a positive relationship with that person again IF there is some sort of value still in it. So find your reason or figure out the value of the relationship and move forward... choose to be positive and if the person at the other end of the relationship will meet you half way then it is possible...
Signed,
NOT a relationship expert.. but hopefully a valued friend,
wife, mother & employee...
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